Mastering Your Emotions

Posted by Troy Valance

How to Control Your Emotions Around Women

Do you sometimes have trouble controlling your emotional responses to women? You know, a woman rejects you or says something that makes you feel bad, and you either shut down emotionally or start getting nervous?

If so, you might think that you are doing a pretty good job of hiding it from her. But guess again…

Have you ever been able to read an emotional response in someone even though they were trying to hide it? If so, take that memory and magnify it by a factor of 20. That’s how much more intuitive women are than we are.

Considering this, don’t you think it might be a good idea to have control of your emotional responses around women?

If you’ve ever had that mysterious moment where all the momentum seemed to die suddenly in your interactions with  women, most likely it’s because you don’t have that control.

So what can you do about it?

* First, Start With Self-Awareness

You must first learn to understand your emotions before you can control them.

From early childhood, we’re taught that we are not to trust our emotions and that being in touch with them is not “manly.” so building self-awareness by understanding your emotions might even be completely out of your comfort zone.

But once you accept that it is something you have to do in order to enjoy amazing interactions with women, you’ll find that it’s actually a pretty fun and interesting challenge.

A good place to get started in building self-awareness is by keeping a journal. You don’t have to spend a lot of time with this exercise, merely 15 minutes a day will do just fine.

The two most important questions you can ask yourself about self-awareness are:

1. What am I feeling?
2. Why am I feeling it?

Most of the time, you’ll probably find yourself looking for interactions with women during the day and asking yourself these two questions.

As simple as these sound, they will help you to understand
your emotions, which will give you a good head start controlling them.

* Finally, Redirect Your Responses

The second key to controlling your emotions is learning to redirect your response to them. For example, you might realize that you are feeling nervous when she touches you (even in an innocent way), and you might realize that you are slightly uncomfortable with casual touching.

Once you realize that this is the issue, you can take a strong stance against your knee-jerk emotional response by touching her back or by telling yourself that your discomfort is irrational and that you have the power to change it.

Over time, your knee-jerk emotional response will change along with your mindset and the actions that you take in response to the woman touching you.

This strategy can be applied to any circumstance where you realize that your emotions are out of your control and causing you to act immature, self-conscious or defensive.

So now you know what to do, the best way to begin is to get started right now. Now, because you’re subscribed to this newsletter, you probably have questions about one of the places you can meet women that is growing in
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Talk soon.

Your friend,


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